EP070 | Stop Blaming Your Body: A Radical Shift in Healing

Ever feel like no matter what you do, eating clean, exercising and meditating, nothing works?

 If you’re frustrated with your healing journey and don’t understand why your body isn’t responding, you’re not alone.

Many women fall into the trap of blaming their bodies when symptoms persist, but this only keeps them stuck. The solution lies in learning to trust your body’s messages instead of trying to fix or silence them.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU’LL DISCOVER:

• Why blaming your body for health issues keeps you in a cycle of quick fixes and overwhelm.
• How listening to your body can move you from fight-or-flight mode into a place of healing.
• The effortless healing approach that helps you build trust with your body and find long-term relief.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING TO THIS PODCAST EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

 How trusting your body’s wisdom can lead to sustainable healing, and why quick fixes aren’t the solution.

OTHER LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Join our free Facebook group: Embrace Your Healing Journey
• Song: My body by Beautiful chorus 
• Blog: Chapter 9: Stop blaming your body
• Learn about the "BODY WISE HEALING" Framework
• Learn more about the coaching programmes by visiting aninditarungta.com.

Write to me at anindita@aninditarungta.com. I'd love to hear from you!

Transcript

Have you ever felt like your body is the enemy and that in spite of no matter what you are doing, whether it's clean eating, whether it's exercising, whether it's yoga and meditation, nothing seems to work the way it should. And maybe you've started wondering what is wrong with me, what's wrong with my body, and why can't I figure this out? If you are, you're not alone. My name is Anindita. I am a functional medicine certified health coach and practitioner. And I help women with complex chronic conditions such as autoimmune disease or reverse their symptoms. Figured out the root cause. Uh, take a very holistic approach, and, uh, you and be guided by their own body's wisdom. Uh, this is a methodology that I have developed over years of working with women, and it's, uh, something that I believe in. It's called effortless healing, and it's based on a body wise healing framework. And the reason that I call it effortless healing is that when you actually finally understand the importance of being guided by your own body, of being able to trust. And that's what this, this session is this, uh, this video is about today. 

Welcome to Embrace Your Healing Journey, a podcast for women with autoimmune and other chronic conditions to help them navigate their illness without fear of isolation and uncertainty and find relief from their symptoms. Your body is your guide and ally in healing. If you are ready to embrace this journey with compassion and awareness, then this show is for you. Tune in weekly as I, a Functional medicine Certified Health Coach, deliver tips and insights that demystify the healing process, guiding you towards the relief you deserve so that you can feel healthy and happy once more. 

I'm talking about, you know, when we stop blaming our bodies and we start trusting them again, that's when real transformation happens. And that's actually when you start feeling, you know, that whatever you're doing is actually working and it seems effortless. That's the whole effortless healing approach, because I think we have made healing very, very complicated and seemingly out of reach. And we have to it feels like we have to rely on multiple experts, multiple labs, multiple protocols, you know, and push and use a lot of our willpower. And that's not really true. And that's what I'm talking about because, uh, what I've learned not just from functional medicine, not just from working with many women of and or not just from my own experience is that our bodies are not broken. 

That's the kind of message that we get from mainstream media, from, you know, from everywhere. Their bodies have somehow are broken. They need to be fixed. And that we have been taught to blame it. And that's actually at the crux of many of the reasons why people actually remain stuck. And what it actually really needs is to be heard. That's what your body needs from you. And when symptoms show up, you know, we often go into this fix it more like we need to fix this symptom. So if you have a particular symptom you take a medicine for it. If you don't take a medicine, even you take a even if you take a functional medicine, which is also based on the root cause healing approach, we often fix it with supplements, right? Instead of medicines it supplements. And that's so unfortunate because that kind of approach doesn't really you know, it keeps us stuck in this blame mode, uh, blaming our bodies for things that are going wrong. And that's never sustainable. And that's, that's actually prevents us from finding sustainable healing. 

Because the issue with, you know, approaching our bodies like it's broken is that we, you know, it's these, uh, quick fixes. We actually incorporate quick fixes. They are mostly bandage solutions, like putting a Band-Aid on a wound rather than trying to clean it and disinfect it. And, you know, I'm making sure that it heals properly, and that's not really sustainable. And it doesn't give us long term sustainable health creation. So we again come back and into what I call a disease mery-go-round. So we keep going around in these circles. We never seem to get off that merry go round. We feel better for a while. And then again, we are back to square one in another six months, a year or a year and a half of two years. When we stop doing some of the things, when we stop taking medicines or supplements. 

Behind this approach that we take is fear. Fear that our bodies cannot be trusted. So we pile on no protocols. We go on to Google, we take more supplements. We do more lab tests, we restrict, we strive. We put in more and more effort. And often that is a recipe for overwhelm. It keeps us stuck. It keeps us. It keeps us from doing the things that we really need to do because we're not even listening to ourselves. We're not even listening to what our bodies need right now. And when these things don't work, we give up hope. Like, a lot of people are actually in that situation because when it comes to chronic conditions like autoimmune disease, it is not it is not one thing that's going to make you feel better. It's a it's a mix of different things. It's multifactorial. There are many different triggers. So the approach cannot be, uh, you know, one, one, uh, you know, like just one path. Right? You will need to do many different things. And the way that you will figure out what are those things is to be to actually listen because your body is, you know, striving to be heard and the symptoms, you know, because this is how we are. 

So we are trained that symptoms are glitches, that symptoms are the problem. But it's like shooting the messenger. They're actually the messenger like they're telling us what's wrong and they're pointing us in the right direction. But we are too scared to listen to it because we've not really been told that they are the messengers. So we what we end up doing is often shooting the messenger. And if and that's how the body communicates with us. But when we when we suppress the communication, when we ignore those messages, then the body starts screaming louder and louder. And I call it that. It moves from a whisper to a scream. And it's happened with me. Even in spite of knowing all this, in spite of teaching all this for so many years that I've been coaching women. I remember two years ago I was, uh, dealing with, uh, you know, sciatica, nerve pain. And that had also happened. It had become worse because I had actually ignored it for a while. I was I was traveling constantly with my daughter. My daughter was majorly into riding at that time, horse riding. And I used to be traveling all the time. And I kept putting it off. I kept, you know, saying that, you know, I'll figure it out and I'll figure out what's happening, which I didn't, of course. And then by the time I went to two doctors and then I wasn't in Bombay, so I had to be in Bombay at that time. And by the time I went and met, uh, you know, the two doctors, two separate people, and one was a sergeant, I think both were sergeants. Uh, what they said is that you have to get surgery done. That's the only option. And by that time, I was in so much of pain and I refused to take painkillers. I was only on muscle relaxants and a bit of gum, curcumin, etc. but that was not really enough. I was not able to walk like more than a few steps without, I mean, I it was I was in pain all the time. I have never really felt what chronic pain is. Anyway, to cut a long story short, I. Fortunately I was still looking for somebody who would actually figure out what the root cause was, and I did. I found such a person, a physiotherapist, and, uh, she's also a doctor. I mean, she's a doctor. And finally when I met her. Uh, because I take this approach in my own practice, you know, what is the root cause? Why is it happening that is so important to understand the why? The minute she saw me, she said, you know your posture. This is the reason your flat feet. And I knew I was in the right hands. And I started, uh, you know, working with her and her team. And it took six weeks. It took six weeks. But she had told me she'd given me a time frame that, you know, it should get resolved. Your pain should start receding. But it takes time. And, uh, it was very painful, uh, to do the, uh, even the, uh, treatments. But, you know, I knew it had to be done. Most importantly, I trusted my body. I knew that if I supported it the way that it needed to be supported, because I had not really been listening to it all that while, and I'd kept ignoring it. And that's why it becomes so much worse. Uh, I knew that the reverse was also true when I started supporting it, when I started actually giving what it needed. Uh, and, uh, yeah, the pain started receding in a, in six weeks time, and I knew I was in the right path. See, that's the that's the beauty of an approach of, you know, uh, like this when you are being guided by your own body, when you do not blame your body for the health issues that you are facing, uh, you know, you realize that your body has been communicating with you rather than trying to sabotage you. Uh, and then you actually start, you know, you figured out that your body is started to soften, right? And the real work is not about doing, you know, more willpower. You can't. I mean, I couldn't have pushed myself to, you know, get better. It was about connecting with my body. It was about doing the right things. It was about learning how to listen. Uh, and this is what happens when you start decoding your body's messages, recording, decoding your symptoms, and when you stop. And it has to start by, you know, by start by not blaming your body. But if you're doing it now and many of us are taught how to do it very well. Uh, we, you know, we need to stop right now. We need to stop blaming our bodies so that we can start trusting them again. Right. And when we start, when we start trusting our bodies, our nervous system relaxes. We move from the sympathetic fight or flight mode to the parasympathetic. Uh. Rest and digest mode. That is where the healing happens. 

So because you build trust not with your just your body but with yourself, right? That's real transformation. And that's the beauty of an approach like this. Because I believe that we need to go beyond symptoms. Beyond symptom management, beyond, uh, you know, just focusing on symptoms and getting better. We need to be in a space where we can be mentally and emotionally at peace with ourselves and in our bodies.  That's what you are looking for. You're actually what you have been missing and what a lot of us are chasing, uh, you know, externally is something that we're missing from inside. Like, we're missing the peace that comes from. And we are missing that, you know, feeling that comes from being at peace in your body. And what happens is that when you practice, practice this again and again and again, you become better and better at it. And that's what exactly has happened for me, for women that I work with, those who finally learn how to tune in, they become better at it. So when a week ago, I started having a bit of pain again on the same side of my, uh, back, and I knew that, you know, this because I knew that I have not been exercising regularly. I was traveling this year as well, but I, I been easing back into it. 

Anyway, so not to make any more excuses. I started doing certain stretching and I started being proactive because now this time I listened to it. I did not wait for it to become worse because I had to do something about it. And I can see that the pain has already started receding because I know what needs to be done right. If you don't know what needs to be done, then you need to work with someone who does. So I want to leave you before I end this session today. This video today. And what's the one way that you've been blaming your body that you're willing to let go of, or that you're ready to let go of? And if you're watching this on replay, I you know, you can pause this video right here. Are you listening to it on a podcast app? And you can I want you to take out a pen and paper and really journal. And for the I'll be doing these weekly sessions every, uh, every week. 

One, I'll be alternating between a heart lit session like this, like today with a more health education oriented sessions where I will teach you about a particular topic in the complex, because it's the, you know, we have really, really overcomplicated wellness. Right. And I want to simplify it for you. I want to make it practical for you. I want to make it easy for you to implement some of the things that we're going to be talking about. So I'll be alternating between these two sessions. And for these heart led sessions, I want you to bring a pen and paper so that you can jot down what your thoughts are, what your reflections are, and I want to I will be ending the sessions with either a guided meditation or a visualization or a dance, because I find one of the most powerful ways to connect with your body. 

To start trusting your body again is to move your body to music, to dance. It's it's such a beautiful and empowering way of connecting, you know, and reconnecting with your body and trusting your body once again. So before I end the session today, I'm going to play this beautiful piece of music by a beautiful chorus. They are called. The group is called Beautiful Chorus. They do all these chorus based songs, if I may call them. They're more like meditations, actually. And this one is called My Body, appropriately so. 

If you're listening to on a podcast app, you can just simply close your eyes. If you're if you're able to or you're watching this on replay, you can do the same. You can put one hand on your heart. You feel feel like connecting, you know, that will help you connect with your body better. And yeah, for the next few moments, just enjoy this piece of music and see how it feels in your body. Oh. My body is. But really, what? I do and it's not. My body is for. This. Body is my body and my body as well. I'm only this beautiful. All of. My. Body. The spirit. My body is my body. My body is beautiful. But I need my body. Body is my body. My body is my body is my body is. My body is beautiful. My body is My smile. Can you close your eyes? You can take a couple of breaths and you can open your eyes. I hope it helps you to reconnect, to dip into your body and not be driven by all the external inputs that we get all day long. Just listening to your body from the inside out rather than constantly from the outside in. 

Your body is beautiful. Your body is yours to do with it. Make sure that you are clear space for healing. Make space for healing. Make sure that you're listening to it, that you're responding rather than reacting. That you're trusting it to guide you in the right path towards the right direction. Because that's where the true healing will happen. And I will see you next time.